Tuesday 17 March 2009

we learn (a witness account)

bloggerNW leahwedding36
*a cake made by the bride herself*


we learn so many things everyday.

i need to write this one down before i forget.

after being witness (together with some of my colleaues) to a sensational malpractice case against an ex-colleague, i have learnt;

1) we are reduced to nothingness if we have not been able to deliver what we are contracted to do.

it holds true to life. one can be called a mother, a sister a friend, but if one has not acted in the manner, one's title is just a hollow description. in the case of the colleague, expectations from his title were not delivered, so titles mean nothing.

2) what is important is the truth and nothing but.

i was nervous as hell, and i knew my memory sometimes is wavering. but after doing my part, i knew hands down, that i have said the truth and whatever the outcome is, i can look people in the eye and say it again. in our life, intentions should be as truthful and meant to uphold love, friendship, and fairness. if ones effort is for others to bemaligned, or to be demeaning,the guilt is on them and not on you.


3) the bad things count

no matter how qualified, nor highly skilled you can be, the negative things that your customer/patients say of you, they are the ones that count.

in the business of life, customer service is priority.


4) we all go back to God

before the session started, i had to take an oath on a bible. and every other witness had to do the same over their preferred medium of oath, either the Koran or something else.

God is the neutralising factor. after all, He is the final judge.


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when people start to question your value...do not take offense. listen intently, calm yourself, look and listen where the questioning voice come from.

it might be a question they were meaning to ask themselves from the very beginning.
it may come from a hollow, pitiful place, voicing out their very own inadequacies.


not yours.

definitely not yours.

8 comments:

Aileen said...

amen to every word in this entry!

i'm having goosebumps reading this. =) mura nig bible in life. =) love. =)

hiddenrage said...

amen to every word in this entry!

i'm having goosebumps reading this. =) mura nig bible in life. =) love. =)

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thanks ai=)

mga muni-muni after a stressful day...

its nice to have you guys to unload to=)

Lynette said...

"when people start to question your value...do not take offense. listen intently, calm yourself, look and listen where the questioning voice come from."

agree. although, this is usually easier said than done. but in time, we understand.

Anonymous said...

i love what you wrote her, chel. as in! *hugs* thanks for sharing these thoughts. really, it's enlightening. =)

hiddenrage said...

agree. although, this is usually easier said than done. but in time, we understand.

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hi nette! =)you mean the "not taking offense" nette? =) totally, the first reaction is to feel all digs and attack is about ourself...because as humans,we are always reflecting about how we can improve...but as you said, time will teach us, immediate reaction about other people's questioning attitude about ourselves, we dont have to answer and defend ourselves all the time..if we learn (in time) to listen, sometimes, its not about us...its about them...=)

hiddenrage said...

i love what you wrote her, chel. as in! *hugs* thanks for sharing these thoughts. really, it's enlightening. =)

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thanks jane...haaay life, its a learning process...our blogs are such beautiful release for our minds not to explode=)

Patricia said...

way to go chelo!!! i'm so proud of you for doing that!

photosandmemos said...

thanks patricia=) i actually did it because i was one of the key witnesses, together with some of my colleagues=)i hope he is put to right=)